Anonymous asked: Hi, this is Teddy back to report how asking that girl out on valentines day went. She said yes!!! We've been going out for almost two weeks now and she has been nothing but loyal so far :) Thanks for your advice!

Teddy, 

I’m so happy to hear that! I’m glad you stuck by your initial goal of asking her out and that everything is working out for you! I wish you both the best!

<3 Victoria

My Reasons not to Fear.

I’m better than my fears. 

And you, better than your own fears. 

Fear is a means of control. Manipulation. It does not exist, and the healthiest thing to fear is fear itself. When you can understand that statement, then you have truly let go of what you fear. When you can look yourself in the eyes, stare into your own reflection… Then you have truly conquered your fears. 

I do not want to spend my life in fear. I do not want to waste precious time and energy on fear. I’d rather feel love. Excitement. Suspense. Adrenaline. 

I do not want to be held back. I want to leap without worrying if I’ll hit the bottom. Because this is my life, and I make the decisions. Not fear. 

Some mornings it’s hard to get out of bed. I find it difficult to tie the laces on my running shoes. Some days it’s hard to open the blinds. I’m so afraid of failing at the most simple tasks that I find myself hesitant to do them. But I push on. The biggest failure is not getting out of bed, not running until my chest is in stitches, and not allowing the sunlight to pour into my house in all of it’s beauty. 

If, when I die I am discontent with how I lived my life I have no one to blame but myself. I can not blame fear. I can not blame my depression. Because in the end I would have chose not to feel the wind against my skin, the sun heating my hair and body. In the end it was me who chose not to bask in the wonders of this world. From the magic of every cell in my body, to the wonders of this world… It is up to me to take advantage and feel and know what this life has to offer. I will not let my fear keep me from living my life. It’s much too precious. And Lord only knows if I’ll get another chance. 

-Victoria <3

Anonymous asked: hmmm ill call myself teddy because i dont think she likes flowers :/ she kinda a unique girl <3 plus i just looked over my bed and saw a teddy bear so why not

Sounds good to me =)

x, Victoria

Anonymous asked: thank you <3 this is the anon from a few minutes ago and ill be sure to tell you how things work out. ill be asking the big question on valentines day

Anon,

That’s cute =) Let’s give you a name, your choice! Do you know what her favorite flower is? Gah! I can’t wait to hear back from you after the big day. 

x, Victoria

Anonymous asked: im really hurt because i fell in love with this girl and she told me she liked me but she had just gotten out of a relationship so i told her she should relax for a bit and that if she still like me in a couple weeks id ask her out. so its been a couple weeks and she tells me she likes me still but.. she keeps telling someone else she likes them too. im not suppose to know but i did some snooping. this other person does not like them back im pretty sure. should i let her go? or follow my heart?

Anon,

I think you should go for it. It seems like she’s testing the water with others, but I feel like you should give it a try. If you guys start dating and you come to a mutual agreement where you guys are no longer dating other people, and she does not abide by that then it’s time to let her go. But for now, it’s pretty normal behavior for someone who has gotten out of a relationship. At least in my experience. Let me know how it goes, I like to keep up with people who message me. You can remain anonymous, no worries. =)

Best, Victoria

Hey you =)

If anyone wants to talk, I’m online.

x-Victoria

Anonymous asked: no i have not but she knows i think shes gorgeous

I think that anyone can say that someone is gorgeous, or good looking. You should let her know how you feel, on a deeper level. Here’s the thing about the “friend zone”, being direct and being honest gets you out of that category. But don’t be crushed and bitter if she turns you down because your friendship to her is more important. Trust me, girls never forget what guys want to date them and be more than friends. Put yourself out there, it’s the only way she’ll know that you’re open to being more than just friends. 

Anonymous asked: if a girl says you're cute/presh is that friend zone?

I don’t think that would necessarily qualify as the friend zone. She
Notices you. I call my boyfriend cute all the time. There are a lot of surrounding factors to being in the friend zone. Have you told her how you feel, or expressed interest in being more than friends?

=)

Ask, ask, ask away M’loves. 

x-V